Helen K. Grunwald

Phil, Jacob & Family,

Two years ago, you welcomed me into your lives as a complete stranger, entrusting me with the care of Kathy. This has been an honor I hold dear.

I still vividly recall my first day at your home in Cottage Grove. Kathy had instructed me to give a heads-up so the dogs could be put away and to come in through the garage. As soon as I stepped inside, I heard her cheerful voice calling out, "Hi honey, I’m down here!" It became immediately clear just how caring and selfless Kathy truly was. Regardless of the pain she was in, she greeted everyone with warmth—using terms like "hon," "honey," "dear," or "sweetie."

Her thoughtfulness was boundless; I remember how she would ask about my wrist whenever I visited after I had injured it. Even during the holidays, she would take the time to send me texts wishing me a happy holiday. Her sense of humor often showed in her
messages, especially when she referred to me as
"girlfriend."
One text, in particular, stands out, bringing a smile to my face while also leaving me in awe of her spirit:

“Hi, honey. I'm sorry. I was so exhausted when you came over today. I love you—tomorrow. I mean, not tomorrow. What the hell am I saying? Forget what I said. Monday would be great. I love you. Talk to you Monday. Bye, honey.”

Here she was, apologizing for being tired. It never seemed to matter what she was going through; she always put her own challenges aside to express concern for others.

Kathy's love for her family was genuinely extraordinary. Her face would light up every time she mentioned you all. She frequently expressed how proud she was of her boys for being such devoted fathers, and she loved sharing the many accomplishments that each of you achieved. And Phil, words fall short of conveying her gratitude for having you as the love of her life. It was clear that your steadfast support provided her with the strength to keep battling; her family was her everything.

I cannot fully express the sorrow I feel for your loss. Please know that Kathy's impact was felt far beyond our interactions—she touched the lives of many, including mine. I hope you can find solace in the legacy of love and strength she leaves behind.

My heartfelt condolences,
Matthew